110 sexy (and fun!) questions to ask your wife

When you’ve already walked down the aisle and embarked on married life together, we think you can do better than asking your wife ‘What’s your favorite color?’

There’s always more to learn about your loved one. That’s where this bumper list of questions to ask your wife comes in—with topics that we bet you never thought of! 

With some of our most-loved Paired questions tucked in, asking these questions will spark those meaningful conversations that your relationship truly needs. 

So, without further ado, get asking! 

What are good questions to ask my wife?

Even though you may be husband and wife, there is always more to learn about each other. This is central to the concept of the Paired app, that the art of asking your partner deep and meaningful questions—has no expiration date. 

As a society, we put so much emphasis on falling in love, but little on the skills required to stay in it. 
Our vision is a world where every couple can stay in love long-term—with the Paired app being there every step to help couples along their relationship journey. 

Paired creates a fun, safe space for couples already in love to explore their relationship, with an abundance of expert-backed questions to ask your partner, strengthening your connection in the process. 

What are some fun questions for married couples?

No matter how long you’ve been married, we bet there are some questions here that you’ve never thought to ask!

From deep questions to some important ones for your future together, these are the best questions to ask your wife to keep your relationship on track. 

Popular Paired questions to ask your wife 

1. What do you remember about the first time you met?

2. What would be your dream travel destination to go to together?

3. Name two things you are grateful for about your partner. 

4. Can you name your partner’s favorite song?

5. What's one way that you depend on your partner each day?

6. Can you name a country your partner wants to visit?

7. What's one thing your partner did for you this week that made you feel appreciated?

8. When you eat dinner together, how can you make that special for you both?

9. How do you help each other handle difficult emotions?

10. What makes you feel like you're really a team?

11. What's something your partner considers themselves to be naturally talented at?

12. Tell your partner one physical attribute you like about them

13. What are some ways that you could create more intentional time together?

14. What’s your favorite non-physical quality about your partner? 

15. What's one belief that you and your partner share?

16. What's one time when your partner was very supportive of you?

17. List two things about your relationship that you are most proud of

18. What are two of your biggest strengths as a couple?

19. Name one characteristic you find endearing or lovable about %{partnerName}

20. What's your favorite place to be together?

21. What's your favorite way to receive affection?

22. Name one way your partner truly “gets” you. 

23. What's one similarity between you that you love?

24. Which one area of your marriage would you most like to work on?

25. What's a need you have in your relationship right now?

26. Name your favorite way you have celebrated a milestone or important event together. What made it so special?

27. What's your favorite date that you ever had?

28. What's your favorite time of day to be intimate?

29. What's one difference between you that you love?

30. If you could instantly master any skill together, what would you choose and why?

31. What made you fall in love with your partner?

32. When your schedules get busy, what’s your favorite way for your partner to ensure you still feel valued?

33. Can you name your partner’s favorite book?

34. What's been your most memorable kiss with your partner?

35. What’s one thing you think makes your relationship unique?

Fun questions to ask your wife 

1. What does your perfect date look like? Bonus points if we haven’t done it before. 

2. What’s your favorite date night movie? 

3. What would you do first if we could switch lives for a day? 

4. What fictional character would you choose to be your best friend? 

5. What’s on your bucket list for us as a couple? 

6. Who was your first celebrity crush? Do they look like me? 

7. Share the most embarrassing moment that you’ve never told anyone about. 

8. What was your favorite book series as a child? 

9. If we had to compete on a reality TV show as a couple, which one would we win? 

10. When was the last time you talked about me to your friends? 

11. When you think about the next year, what are you most excited about? 

12. What age would you like to be for the rest of your life?

13. If our married life was a reality tv show, what would it be?  

14. If we were a superhero duo, what would our powers be?

15. If you could steal one of my personality traits for yourself, what would it be? 

Questions to ask your future wife 

1. Are we going to set aside regular time for date nights/quality time? 

2. What are your biggest fears about our future together? 

3. Where do you see our relationship going in the next five years? 

4. Do you think our sex life will change when we’re married? 

5. Tell me what a healthy marriage or long-term partnership looks like for you.

6. What are your non-negotiables for a happy marriage? 

7. How do you envision balancing careers and family life?

8. What are your thoughts on having children? How many and when?

9. How should we handle finances as a married couple?

10. What role do you see our extended families playing in our married life?

11. How do you feel about sharing passwords and social media accounts?

12. What are your expectations for the division of household chores?

13. How do you think we should resolve conflicts in our marriage?

14. What are your views on personal space and alone time in a marriage?

15. How important is religion or spirituality in our future life together?

Deep questions to ask your wife

1. Do you think your husband should be your best friend? 

2. What do you appreciate the most about our relationship? 

3. Tell me some of your favorite childhood memories. Would you like to have something like that for our children? 

4. What makes you a good friend? 

5. What do you think are the most important qualities of a good partner? 

6. When was the last time you cried? Was there anything I could have done better? 

7. What is a mistake you have made in a past relationship that you don’t want to repeat? 

8. Has sex ever complicated a past relationship? 

9. Do you have a favorite personality trait about yourself? 

10. How has your relationship with your parents influenced our relationship?

Romantic questions to ask your wife 

1. What is your favorite memory from our wedding day? 

2. What is your favorite memory from our early dates? 

3. If you could plan the perfect day for us, what would it look like? 

4. What do you think is my favorite thing about you? 

5. What love language is most important to you? Do I fulfill it? 

6. Do you show love in the same way you want to receive it? 

7. What's one small thing I do that always makes you feel loved?

8. If we could renew our vows, where would you want to do it?

9. If you could relive one moment from our relationship, what would it be?

10. How would you describe our love to someone who's never met us?

Good questions to ask your wife 

1. How often would you like to go on a date night? 

2. What’s your favorite thing about married life so far? 

3. What is your favorite thing that I do for you? 

4. Which family member do you feel the closest to? 

5. What are some goals we should work toward for the next year? 

6. How do you see our relationship evolving over time? 

7. What have your past relationships taught you? 

8. What personality traits do you most value in our relationship? 

9. How can I better support you in achieving your personal goals?

10. What's one habit you'd like us to develop as a couple?

11. How do you think we complement each other?

12. What's one area of our relationship you think we could improve?

13. How do you prefer to receive appreciation or recognition?

14. What's one new experience you'd like us to share together?

15. How do you think we can maintain our individuality while growing as a couple?

Sexy questions to ask your wife 

1. What brings you the most pleasure in our sex life? 

2. Is there anything new you would like to try in bed? If so, what? 

3. If you could have a sexual superpower, what would it be? 

4. How do you feel about dirty talk? 

5. If you were going to watch some porn right now, what search term would you type in?

6. What's your favorite part of my body?

7. Do you have any unfulfilled sexual fantasies you'd like to explore with me?

8. What's one thing you've always wanted to tell me during sex but haven't?

9. How do you feel about sending each other sexy messages or photos throughout the day?

10. What's the most unexpected turn-on you've discovered about yourself?